Qualities in a SO. What is my type?
One of the worst questions to have asked in respect to dating has to be: What is your type?
I don't think I have a type. But if you ask me, I'll probably tell you the generic things that everyone seems to say:
Funny
Smart
Logically
Open minded
Honest
Caring
Good looking
Sure there are some dealbreakers like:
Decision on kids
Thoughts on cats/dogs/other pets
Racists
Smokers
Lifestyles
But for the most part, it's the little details that are difficult to describe that create a great relationship.
"Wonderful stuff, you know, little things like that. Ah, but, those are the things I miss the most. The little idiosyncrasies that only I knew about. That's what made her my wife. Oh, and she had the goods on me, too, she knew all my little peccadillos. People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw, that's the good stuff. And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds. You're not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn't perfect either. But the question is: whether or not you're perfect for each other. That's the whole deal. That's what intimacy is all about. Now you can know everything in the world, sport, but the only way you're findin' out that one is by givin' it a shot. You certainly won't learn from an old fucker like me. Even if I did know, I wouldn't tell a piss ant like you."
I love that quote.
So before you ask someone what they look for in a relationship or significant other, think of those little idiosyncrasies and peccadillos. If you do ask, expect a generic response.