Save the Date

Continuing yesterday's theme on dating, I'm going to point out how terrible it is to be one gender, male, in the dating domain. Even in today's world, ladies asking a guy on a date seems odd of the norm. But if you really think about it, there isn't any explanation why the male has to initiate the relationship or even pay for the date (I personally think the initiator should pay for the meal) besides tradition (which is built on oppression of woman). This is all assuming that "dates" do exist still.

Let's face it, not all males can be the aggressive alpha male. Why can't the social convention be that women be the initiator in the relationship? (Ideally it would be completely equal) Isn't that why Saddie Hawkins dances are so popular? It gives the opportunity to the females to ask males without any judgement. I would like to think I would have been asked with there were such dance in my school; I probably couldn't use my height as an excuse in middle school as most of the girls were standing taller than the boys. The dominance of male initiating the relationship has create an unfortunate distinction for female initiation. I've heard multiple women say something to the effect of "I wish I could just ask him out"; but truly, there isn't anything stopping them. Some of us, males, are looking for the alpha-females (just like in elephants and hyenas) or just confident and strong females.

And if your thinking is that men wouldn't like to be asked on a date, I think you would be completely wrong. It may be seem odd at first because of the social conventions that we grew up with but it would definitely be flattering (no matter who asks). It's not like the aggressor has to "wear the pants" for the entire relationship. Many men, like me, love the idea of a lady asking him on a date; in my mind, it doesn't portray them as extremely aggressive or desperate.  

This may be why online dating has become so successful. The men wait for one of the seemingly low number of females to contact them because it's easier that way. While the females have a greater selection to choose from, they can always make first contact the male without any stigma. 

Men shouldn't be expected to initiate; women shouldn't have to wait. Members of both genders should be able to do whatever they like without any judgement from. Both genders, alike, have insecurities and fears of being rejected. It's time to change "the game"; make it a level playing field/equal opportunity for both genders.

Someone asked "Would you expect women to start proposing to men?" My response was "One step at a time."

Sometimes I wish my parents would actually setup an arranged marriage for me but, of course, I can't let them have all the satisfaction.

What are your thought on this topic?